The NEW DCMerlin's Guide to OKCupid
--- Don't Panic! ---
Useful tips for the novice or the advanced user
[Originally posted Feb. 16, 2008 on OKC]
BUG REPORTS: If you find any defects in the links or anything else here which does not appear to work, please email me using Live Journal messaging system, leave a comment here, or email me at OKC.
CAUTION: Opening any of the chapters NOT marked with an "N" will take you back to chapters posted in my journal on OKC. Once there you MUST use the BACK button to get back here. If you use the links they contain to go to the index, you will be taken to the index there, not the index here.
To link people to this guide easily tinyurl.com/okcupidguide
To link those who have not yet joined OKCupid to the orientation chapter tinyurl.com/chzero
As in the fictional book (within a real book) The Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy,
DCMerlin's Guide to OKCupid is less of a "guide" and more of a REFERENCE MANUAL.
This guide was *never* intended to be read sequentially from its first to its last
chapter, any more than a dictionary is meant to be read from cover to cover. Anyone
complaining this guide is "Too Long" will be forced to sit and listen to VOGON poetry.
(These chapters are periodically updated and occasionally replaced entirely)
ATTENTION NEW USERS: I've created a custom prioritized list of chapters especially aimed at the as-yet-not-joined user. Unless you are a seasoned user or have come here seeking a solution to a specific problem, please CLICK HERE to see the prioritized list.
This is the story of How the guide came to be
* - ***** = Importance, N = Newly updated, NEW = NEW!
|Chapter _0||NEW||(*****)||3/10||What OKCupid Is and how to best use it.|
|Chapter _1||N||(*****)||12/10||Match (M/F/E) Score Accuracy Read before answering (any more) questions!|
|Chapter _2||N||(-****)||3/11||Build a better profile (& prevent accidental deletion!)|
|Chapter _3||N||(--***)||3/10||Increase Responses from other users|
|Chapter _4||(*****)||Interpreting M/F/E (match) Scores|
|Chapter _5||N||(--***)||1/11||Interpreting Profiles accurately|
|Chapter _6||(-****)||Profile Photos -How to pick one & How to post *anything*|
|Chapter _7||N||(--***)||4/11||HTML Tweaking Your Profile -Free Bling!|
|Chapter _8||N||(*****)||1/11||Safely Meeting People, & persuading them to meet you!|
|Chapter _9||N||(---**)||3/11||Harassment; nasty emails, etc.|
|Chapter 10||N||(-****)||3/11||Reporting abuse; Effective use of Flagging|
|Chapter 11||(--***)||12/08||Select worthwhile tests to take|
|Chapter 12||N||(-****)||3/17||IM System Bugs Overcoming them!|
|Chapter 13||NEW||(*****)||7/11||Forums; Benefit from them & don't get burned|
|Chapter 14||N||(---**)||3/10||Pet Peeves|
|Chapter 15||N||(-****)||3/11||Notes & Ratings/Star Votes & QuickMatch|
|Chapter 16||(----*)||WikiEdit -how helping others will help you|
|Chapter 17||N||(--***)||2/09||Journaling -how beneficial this feature is|
|Chapter 18||(-****)||Improve the Match Questions|
|Chapter 19||N||(-****)||3/11||Top 10 reasons OKCupid is tops among online dating sites|
|Chapter 20||N-!||(*****)||2/11||Promoting OKCupid helps you!|
|Chapter 21||N||(*****)||1/10||Testimonials; Allow your friends to recommend you!|
|Chapter 22||N||(--***)||2/09||Polyamorists Guide to OKCupid|
|Chapter 23||N||(-****)||3/09||***Non-DCMerlin*** Subject-Specific guides|
|Chapter 24||N||(*****)||3/11||Maximizing the OKC Email System|
|Chapter 25||N||(-****)||3/11||REDUCE undesired attention|
|Chapter 26||N||(*****)||3/10||Searching Is Fundamental|
|Chapter 27||N||(---**)||2/09||Interpreting Photographs Effectively|
|Chapter 28||N||(--***)||2/09||User Psychology; Users who are not what they seem|
|Chapter 29||(----*)||2/09||Improving Your Connection FOR FREE!|
|Chapter 30||NEW||(--***)||7/11||Policing OKCupid: What you can do! (aka "Report Moderation")|
|Chapter 31||NEW||(-****)||2/11||A-List Membership Who needs it? (I do!)|
|Chapter 32||NEW||(-****)||3/11||The Quiver -REALLY, it's not as dumb as you think!|
|Chapter 33||NEW||(---**)||3/11||Change Your User Name (without joining A-List)|
|Chapter 34||NEW||(--***)||4/11||Be as attractive as you can be (without breaking the bank)|
|Chapter 35||NEW||(----*)||5/11||Linking Your Kink Using FetLife!|
|Chapter #||N||(--***)||NameUnbold Description|
|Chapter #||N||(--***)||NameUnbold Description|
Praise The Guide:
There are two equally valid ways to post public feedback regarding my guide. The traditional way is to post a comment to the OKCupid journal post linked immediately above.
Post a comment on OKC (which is easier for you if you don't have an LJ account)
Post a comment on LJ (which is currently my preference) Why join LJ?
For tips for how to post a pointer or link in your profile, journal, blog, etc, please see this link.
**The Two Of Us (aka TTOU), (an explanation and advanced tips for understanding this important feature)
**Why Icebreakers are really a FANTASTIC idea even if they seem stupid
I am leaving commenting on in case you would like to submit ideas for new chapters.