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2nd-Jan-2010 04:49 am
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The NEW DCMerlin's Guide to OKCupid

--- Don't Panic! ---
Useful tips for the novice or the advanced user

Originally posted Feb. 16, 2008
in the now defunct OKCupid journals

BUG REPORTS: If you find any defects in the links or anything else here which does not appear to work, please email me at DCMerlin@gmail.com

To link people to this guide easily tinyurl.com/okcupidguide
To link those who have not yet joined OKCupid to the orientation chapter tinyurl.com/chzero

As in the fictional book (within a real book) The Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy,
DCMerlin's Guide to OKCupid is less of a "guide" and more of a REFERENCE MANUAL.
This guide was *never* intended to be read sequentially from its first to its last
chapter, any more than a dictionary is meant to be read from cover to cover. Anyone
complaining this guide is "Too Long" will be forced to sit and listen to VOGON poetry.

(These chapters are periodically updated and occasionally replaced entirely)

ATTENTION NEW USERS: I've created a custom prioritized list of chapters especially aimed at the as-yet-not-joined user. Unless you are a seasoned user or have come here seeking a solution to a specific problem, please CLICK HERE to see the prioritized list.

This is the story of How the guide came to be

Chapter Index

* - ***** = Importance, N = Newly updated, NEW = NEW!





Chapter _0 NEW (*****) 3/10 What OKCupid Is and how to best use it.
Chapter _1 N (*****) 12/10 Match (M/F/E) Score Accuracy Read before answering (any more) questions!
Chapter _2 N (-****) 3/11 Build a better profile (& prevent accidental deletion!)
Chapter _3 N (--***) 3/10 Increase Responses from other users
Chapter _4 O (*****) 2008 Effectively Interpreting Match Scores
Chapter _5 N (--***) 1/11 Interpreting Profiles accurately
Chapter _6 N (-****) 1/15 Profile Photos -How to pick one & How to post *anything*
Chapter _7 N (--***) 4/11 HTML Tweaking Your Profile -Free Bling!
Chapter _8 N (*****) 1/11 Safely Meeting People, & persuading them to meet you!
Chapter _9 N (---**) 3/11 Harassment; nasty emails, etc.
Chapter 10 N (-****) 3/11 Reporting abuse; Effective use of Flagging
Chapter 11 O (--***) 12/08 Select worthwhile tests to take
Chapter 12 N (-****) 3/11 IM System Bugs Overcoming them!
Chapter 13 NEW (*****) 7/11 Forums; Benefit from them & don't get burned
Chapter 14 N (---**) 3/10 Pet Peeves
Chapter 15 N (-****) 3/11 Notes & Ratings/Star Votes & QuickMatch
Chapter 16 -- (----*) FILLER:  I don't always join online dating sites...
Chapter 17 N (--***) 2/09 Journaling -how beneficial this feature is
Chapter 18 O (-****) 1/08 Improve the Match Questions
Chapter 19 N (-****) 3/11 Top 10 reasons OKCupid is tops among online dating sites
Chapter 20 N-! (*****) 2/11 Promoting OKCupid helps you!
Chapter 21 N (*****) 1/10 Testimonials; Allow your friends to recommend you!
Chapter 22 N (--***) 2/09 Polyamorists Guide to OKCupid
Chapter 23 N (-****) 3/09 ***Non-DCMerlin*** Subject-Specific guides
Chapter 24 N (*****) 3/11 Maximizing the OKC Email System
Chapter 25 N (-****) 3/11 REDUCE undesired attention
Chapter 26 N (*****) 3/10 Searching Is Fundamental
Chapter 27 N (---**) 2/09 Interpreting Photographs Effectively
Chapter 28 N (--***) 2/09 User Psychology; Users who are not what they seem
Chapter 29 O (----*) 2/09 Improving Your Connection FOR FREE!
Chapter 30 NEW (--***) 7/11 Policing OKCupid: What you can do! (aka "Report Moderation")
Chapter 31 NEW (-****) 2/11 A-List Membership Who needs it? (I do!)
Chapter 32 NEW (-****) 3/11 The Quiver -REALLY, it's not as dumb as you think!
Chapter 33 NEW (---**) 3/11 Change Your User Name (without joining A-List)
Chapter 34 NEW (--***) 4/11 Be as attractive as you can be (without breaking the bank)
Chapter 35 NEW (----*) 5/11 Linking Your Kink Using FetLife!
Chapter 36 NEW (-****) 7/15 Revenge Porn Don't be a victim!
Chapter # N (--***) NameUnbold Description
Chapter # N (--***) NameUnbold Description

Praise The Guide:
Ever since OKCupid deleted its own journals, there are now fewer ways to publicly show your appreciation for the guide.

Post a comment on LJ (which is currently my preference) Why join LJ?
. or
You can help proliferate knowledge of the guide by mentioning it in your OKCupid profile. For tips for how to post a pointer or link in your profile, journal, blog, etc, please see this link.

Upcoming Chapters:
**The Two Of Us (aka TTOU), (an explanation and advanced tips for understanding this important feature)
**Why Icebreakers are really a FANTASTIC idea even if they seem stupid (too bad OKC got rid of that feature before I got around to writing a guide to it)

I am leaving commenting on in case you would like to submit ideas for new chapters.
23rd-May-2012 11:19 am (UTC)
Is it not possible to put navigation buttons at the bottom of each page?
Now, one reads a chapter, then must perform 2 navigation actions - scroll-to-top then next, or back to index then next.
It would be nice if after reading a chapter, and being positioned at the bottom, there was a 'right-green-arrow'.
-Anyhow, -Thanks for the guide
23rd-May-2012 03:14 pm (UTC)
First, I want to thank you for writing. It is the praise of users like yourself which inspires me to continue to maintain my guide.

I have made an effort to place a navigation button at both the top and bottom of each up-to-date chapter. It is possible that if you are using an iPhone, or other android type device, that the navigation buttons (links) are not visible to you.

As you may have noticed, the guide is not even completely moved over yet as of this reply. Chapters which have not yet been moved have inaccurate return links, but I've edited the original index page to redirect users back to the new guide index. Chapters still on OKCupid are very difficult to edit and many newer users cannot open them at all.

Judging from your email, I must assume you are referring only to the 6 chapters which have not yet been moved. There are a total of 36 chapters (counting chapter zero) and my index warns of the problems with the unmoved chapters.

In addition, many of the moved chapters are already in need of update. However, I expect to get back to this. My writing is the most prolific when the DC are weather is either too HOT or too COLD to do anything outdoors. The unusually warm winter and my remission from Lyme Disease are the two main reasons I've fallen behind on the necessary updates to my guide.
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